It seems that time flies faster than I am aware. Here we are coming up on the end of April (2 months since last post) and I am not certain if my words have brought encouragement or helped someone to hang on and hang in.
If this is your first time here I would encourage you to look up the song "It Does Get Better" on youtube. It is a great song and speaks to the fight - the fight and plight of bullying and being gay. So please hang in there and talk to someone you think you can trust.
Saturday, April 21, 2012
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Hate Crime
And yet another person becomes a victim of a hate crime - this time because she showed support for gay marriage and it angered two people who disagreed! Here we go still.......I am pleased it is being investigated as a hate crime because clearly there is no other explanation.
Destinie Mogg-Barkalow and others who support human rights need this to be treated as a hate crime. We need to step up and say this is no longer acceptable! Bullying our children in schools to the point of them committing suicide, outing our college students relationships, denying us the rights given to other citizens- ALL unacceptable. How do we expect our children to believe it gets better when we are continuing to fight battles that seem to set us back? Governors having a say as to whether we should be given access to marry speaks louder than most anything else. I myself am not sure how this right to marry was even allowed to become a battle - except recycled prejudice. That is the only explanation I have.....recycled prejudice. The battle is really no different than battles faced by other groups as a result of prejudice, fear, ignorance, and hatred....recycled prejudice.
Destinie Mogg-Barkalow and others who support human rights need this to be treated as a hate crime. We need to step up and say this is no longer acceptable! Bullying our children in schools to the point of them committing suicide, outing our college students relationships, denying us the rights given to other citizens- ALL unacceptable. How do we expect our children to believe it gets better when we are continuing to fight battles that seem to set us back? Governors having a say as to whether we should be given access to marry speaks louder than most anything else. I myself am not sure how this right to marry was even allowed to become a battle - except recycled prejudice. That is the only explanation I have.....recycled prejudice. The battle is really no different than battles faced by other groups as a result of prejudice, fear, ignorance, and hatred....recycled prejudice.
Saturday, February 11, 2012
The L Project
I am sharing a link from The L Project; The UK charity song "It Does Get Better" - geared towards anti-bullying. Everyone on this project donated their time, allowing for ALL proceeds to be donated to anti-bullying resources.
It is a FABULOUS song! Check it out! Buy the tune! Here's the link:
www.youtube.com
It is a FABULOUS song! Check it out! Buy the tune! Here's the link:
www.youtube.com
Buy the single now! iTunes - http://itunes.apple.com/gb/
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Homosexuality & Politics
Ok...so today I read online that a Tennessee teen killed himself after repeated harassment. It is said that 14 yr. old Phillip Parker was constantly ridiculed. The article went on to state that this is Tennessee's 2nd teen suicide in 2 months as lawmakers in this state are reconsidering passing a bill called "don't say gay" bill. This bill bans talking about homosexuality in public schools from kindergarten to 8th grade.
Did we not learn anything from the Don't Ask - Don't Tell bill? It didn't work then, why would it work in schools? I'm not saying that we need to teach about the homosexuality lifestyle in schools, I'm saying that we need to leave the door open for those who are homosexual and need to talk to someone. But to silence this topic leaves these youngsters prone to bullying and other forms of ridicule. How is that fair? I suppose there are those who could care less that 2 lives have been lost in 2 months - but you know what - I care ......... these are young people who had entire lives ahead of them.......who knows how their lives could have blessed those around them and further. Who are we to say - so what - they were gay - who cares? This is just so wrong on so many fronts and so little is being done. Call yourself a politician and dictate who can live how, or call yourself a christian and decide that passing judgment upon others is your religious and moral obligation and I tell you........shame on you! None of you have the right to judge another - let alone censor.......isn't that what Tennessee lawmakers are doing when they say no one can speak of homosexuality in the school system? Is that not censorship? Where the hell are we living? I don't get it...........and yet sadly I do. These hate mongers are passing laws based upon fear and ignorance - that's it...........nothing more - nothing less........I encourage you people to stop and ask yourself ok ............ this law is being presented....... how would I feel if that law applied to me?
Take homosexual out of the equation....let's say it applied to you personally for whatever reason, maybe your gender, your race, your religion and someone wanted to censor you? How would you feel? Someone could help your own child when they would not come to you personally - but was told they cannot because oh well - they're Portuguese, or they're Methodist, or they're a girl or boy...sounds ridiculous right? But that is what is occurring. People are out there spreading hate and fear based upon ignorance and prejudice...........and yet still in 2012 this is absolutely ok......
It's time to wake up people!
Below is the link to the article that I read...please do read.
http://www.gay.net/news/2012/01/23/second-teen-suicide-tenn-dont-say-gay-bill-returns
Did we not learn anything from the Don't Ask - Don't Tell bill? It didn't work then, why would it work in schools? I'm not saying that we need to teach about the homosexuality lifestyle in schools, I'm saying that we need to leave the door open for those who are homosexual and need to talk to someone. But to silence this topic leaves these youngsters prone to bullying and other forms of ridicule. How is that fair? I suppose there are those who could care less that 2 lives have been lost in 2 months - but you know what - I care ......... these are young people who had entire lives ahead of them.......who knows how their lives could have blessed those around them and further. Who are we to say - so what - they were gay - who cares? This is just so wrong on so many fronts and so little is being done. Call yourself a politician and dictate who can live how, or call yourself a christian and decide that passing judgment upon others is your religious and moral obligation and I tell you........shame on you! None of you have the right to judge another - let alone censor.......isn't that what Tennessee lawmakers are doing when they say no one can speak of homosexuality in the school system? Is that not censorship? Where the hell are we living? I don't get it...........and yet sadly I do. These hate mongers are passing laws based upon fear and ignorance - that's it...........nothing more - nothing less........I encourage you people to stop and ask yourself ok ............ this law is being presented....... how would I feel if that law applied to me?
Take homosexual out of the equation....let's say it applied to you personally for whatever reason, maybe your gender, your race, your religion and someone wanted to censor you? How would you feel? Someone could help your own child when they would not come to you personally - but was told they cannot because oh well - they're Portuguese, or they're Methodist, or they're a girl or boy...sounds ridiculous right? But that is what is occurring. People are out there spreading hate and fear based upon ignorance and prejudice...........and yet still in 2012 this is absolutely ok......
It's time to wake up people!
Below is the link to the article that I read...please do read.
http://www.gay.net/news/2012/01/23/second-teen-suicide-tenn-dont-say-gay-bill-returns
Saturday, January 28, 2012
Why bully?
So, it's been a few days since I've been on here - time does fly. I am curious and please feel free to comment; why do people bully? What is the bullier getting out of it? It also seems that there is a lack of empathy, because certainly one who has the ability to be empathetic would not resort to bullying. I suppose my next question is can empathy be taught? Lastly, is bullying a self esteem issue? It is understood that the one being bullied is having their self esteem mutilated daily, but what about the self esteem of the bullier? Has their self esteem been torn down that in order to feel better they have to tear another down?
I am interested in hearing the thoughts of others, so please feel free to leave comments.
I am interested in hearing the thoughts of others, so please feel free to leave comments.
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Struggling - but love conquers
There are some days I just cannot think about bullying, suicide, homosexuality, hate crimes and other injustices going on throughout the world. It all weighs me down and leaves me feeling very weary.
I understand that talk of Jesus or God is touchy for some people, but not for me. I love my God. However, I understand that they think if there is a God then why does suffering exist? It exists because we are born of free will. Here in this country we have choices AND consequences. God is not responsible for the consequences as a result of our choices. It is what it is.
Today I choose to ignore all the negativity and think about God and think about LOVE. I have someone who loves me more than anyone else I know. This person loves me and all that I bring to the table. Believe me what I bring to to the table can be chaotic- a sense of me; caring, empathetic, humorous, sarcastic, creative, opinionated, understanding, angry, passionate, person. My luv gets all that about me. My luv accepts all those things about me. I know that this person saved my life. She loved me when I felt unlovable but was willing to take a chance. It was a blind date - and going on almost 4 years later...here we are...loving and understanding one another. Supporting, sharing, venting, and picking at each other. At the end of the evening and the beginning of each day we know this - LOVE is a wonderful thing. It is sacrificial, it is non judgmental, it is wonderfully frustrating and all consuming at times. It is the good, the bad, and the ugly...it is what it is - as the saying goes these days. It is work, but anything worth having is work.
I know that I love her, I know that she gets me. I know that when a biological family is supposed to love unconditionally and does not - she does! AND that is all that matters to me. We share love of nature, the arts, motorcycles, one particular lil blonde haired chihuahua, God, and each other...and that is more than enough. So, if you have that someone - to share all things with, and it does not have to be a lover, it can be a trusted BFF....just know that love is important...it keeps us hanging on when the world and all that is negative seems to swallow us. When the day to day seems to be a struggle this love can keep you hanging on and hanging in.
I understand that talk of Jesus or God is touchy for some people, but not for me. I love my God. However, I understand that they think if there is a God then why does suffering exist? It exists because we are born of free will. Here in this country we have choices AND consequences. God is not responsible for the consequences as a result of our choices. It is what it is.
Today I choose to ignore all the negativity and think about God and think about LOVE. I have someone who loves me more than anyone else I know. This person loves me and all that I bring to the table. Believe me what I bring to to the table can be chaotic- a sense of me; caring, empathetic, humorous, sarcastic, creative, opinionated, understanding, angry, passionate, person. My luv gets all that about me. My luv accepts all those things about me. I know that this person saved my life. She loved me when I felt unlovable but was willing to take a chance. It was a blind date - and going on almost 4 years later...here we are...loving and understanding one another. Supporting, sharing, venting, and picking at each other. At the end of the evening and the beginning of each day we know this - LOVE is a wonderful thing. It is sacrificial, it is non judgmental, it is wonderfully frustrating and all consuming at times. It is the good, the bad, and the ugly...it is what it is - as the saying goes these days. It is work, but anything worth having is work.
I know that I love her, I know that she gets me. I know that when a biological family is supposed to love unconditionally and does not - she does! AND that is all that matters to me. We share love of nature, the arts, motorcycles, one particular lil blonde haired chihuahua, God, and each other...and that is more than enough. So, if you have that someone - to share all things with, and it does not have to be a lover, it can be a trusted BFF....just know that love is important...it keeps us hanging on when the world and all that is negative seems to swallow us. When the day to day seems to be a struggle this love can keep you hanging on and hanging in.
Monday, January 23, 2012
Bullying - don't buy into it
Look - I'm gonna try and be as real as a person can possibly be....being picked on, being dehumanized, being told you are nothing, being fed negative messages on a daily basis - whether at home, school, in your community - it sucks. There's no way around it - it really, really sucks! But you are not those messages. You do not have to buy into what you are hearing. You are a unique individual with unique talents, abilities, and gifts. Those are yours and yours alone. People who put you down, leave you feeling less good about yourself are only doing it to make themselves feel better. You won't recognize it, you will think - they seem so confident about themselves, they're so cool. They're not really, they are acutally hurting too. They have to be...self assured, confident people do not put others down to make themselves feel better...they just don't do that. So, the next time someone is belittling you keep in mind they have their own issues. They have their own pain. I realize that as you are going through this, what the other person is feeling is irrelevant. You could care less. You are not out trying to hurt them, they are intentionally trying to hurt you...trying to stand you out in front of a bunch of people so they can boost their own self esteem. But, if you can remember this then maybe as you walk by them you can hold your head a little higher knowing the issue is not within you, but it is within them. Maybe if you say anything you can say - I feel sorry for you....and keep walking - head held high - they will know what you mean.....if you do not say it then maybe you think it and keep walking - head held high.
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